Send Your Best Wishes To AJ
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Submitted by Cherie Vadnais from Ware MA USA
Dearest AJ,
Submitted by Xuena from Singapore --- Singapore
Dearest AJ,
Submitted by TB from Cleveland OH USA
AJ - Just had to let you know you're a brave man to face your problems in the limelight of the (yuk) media. Don't listen to them! You come first! We all have demons in our lives, sometimes when we're troubled, they can get the best of us. Lucky for you that you recognized that you needed help to get your strength and health back.
Submitted by lau from Netherlands
Hey AJ,
Submitted by Sevgi Beyhan aka Jenny Noname from Bursa Turkey
Baby I've just heard your situation about alcohol.
Submitted by Aline Azevedo from JF MG Brazil
Dear AJ,
Submitted by marielle from Netherlands
Dear AJ
Submitted by TUANA from ISTANBUL ----- Turkey
darlin,
Submitted by TUANA from ISTANBUL ----- Turkey
darlin,
Submitted by TUANA from ISTANBUL ----- Turkey
darlin,
Submitted by TUANA from ISTANBUL ----- Turkey
darlin,
Submitted by TUANA from ISTANBUL ----- Turkey
darlin,
Submitted by TUANA from ISTANBUL istanbul Turkey
darlin,
Submitted by Tracy from Pompano Beach Florida USA
Hey babe,
Submitted by Tracy from Pompano Beach Florida USA
AJ -- I don't know what your EXACT situation is. My friend would have me believe that you got into drinking or whatever else because you just wanted to have "fun." I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that the depression and anxiety drove you to it as a coping method of sorts. I'd do that for anybody. He thinks I only care because you're the all mighty AJ from the Backstreet Boys ... please! I was in a relationship with an alcoholic AND a crack addict. He was noone famous, and I still tried to help him, but he didn't care at all about getting help. He blamed everybody else for his drug and alcohol abuse. Our relationship ended because not long after he threatened to hit me and just TAKE my money to buy drugs (I wouldn't give it to him willingly.), he then got just a bit more physical with me than I would accept. AJ, I think you have amazing potential. Your interests and talents read like a menu at a restaurant. Don't throw all that potential away on some "drug" ... whatever drug that may be. Eventually, you WILL lose EVERYTHING. You have to know that. My paternal family were all drug and alcohol abusers. Because of it, they beat each other on a regular basis and saw the inside of the local jailhouse more times than the wardens. My father lost his life to drugs and alcohol at the age of 32. I was seven ... remember I said I grew up with no father too. My mom took me away from the rest of the family because of their actions. She didn't want me around that mess any longer. If they had any potential, it was fried along with their brain cells from all the bull(beep) they did. I don't want to see you end up like my family, or some other notable names such as River Phoenix, Jimi Hendrix, Jim Morrison, Janis Joplin, John Belushi, Kurt Kobain, etc. etc. All of the celebrities I named had amazing talent, but how do people remember them most ... as the celebs that died from drugs. That's sad. River Phoenix was a developing young actor with quite a few films behind him (i.e. Stand By Me). He died on the sidewalk in front of the Viper Room club convulsing on the ground with people walking over him like he was some common bum on the street. One addiction of mine just about killed me, and believe me, if you're one of the lucky ones that can get that close to death and still get a chance to redeem yourself before it's too late, count your blessings. The deeper you get into addiction, the harder it is to realize for yourself that you have a problem. Now ... you're doing all this with rehab. I know you were in a sense pushed into it when the guys confronted you, but make sure you're doing this for yourself. Those things I spoke about is the reality of addiction. I think you know that. Face it ... don't deny it. And please, whatever you do, don't let yourself become one of those people who has a permanent revolving door at the rehab center. You're better than that. I know you are. Coming as close to death from something I inflicted on myself was the most frightening experience of my life. The only "short" future in addiction is of loneliness and despair, even if you're surrounded by people. Another little thing to think about ... alcohol poisoning ... I don't know if you've ever experienced THAT horror, but if you think you feel bad now ... you ain't seen nothin yet. I only had it at a milder degree, but I wasn't right for several days. That was the LAST time I had ANYTHING alcoholic. It's NOT WORTH IT. If I'm going to die, I'm going to go out fighting to live and making the most of the time I DO have. AJ ... you love to sing ... it'll kill your voice ... you love to write ... it'll cloud your mind ... I hear you like to socialize ... it'll isolate you. Kill your addictions before they kill YOU. I don't want your 24th birthday to be your official date of death. Like I've said ... I love you dearly because you are a part of something that brought me so much joy in one of my darkest hours. But, I'm not going to play the pity trip or sugar coat it. That's not going to help. The first step is to comfort and encourage. Once that person has begun to receive treatment and has their senses about them, then comes the scare tactics. Those are the things that are most likely to convince an addict to quit, providing they haven't turned bitter and numb. If saying these things to you will help you beat this PERMANENTLY, then it's worth it. I want you to be so scared of what THAT life can lead to that you NEVER want to see or be around that crap again. You have so many things to live for ... hello ... the Backstreet Boys (You do still like being in the group, don't you?), a beautiful girlfriend (I don't know if you're still with Amanda or someone else, but whatever.), an incredible mother (I mean ... she supports you so much, she used to tour with you on a regular basis ... that's AWESOME!), you DO have the kind of money to make a good life for yourself (Most people have to scrounge.), you DO have the status to make a difference (I would love to be in your position, so I could help more people. That's the only reason I would even want to be rich. I could care less about a $10 million mansion and $500,000 car. I have issues I would love to have the voice to make the government actually listen.) Please!!! Listen to what people that care for you are saying. You have no idea how incredible it makes me feel to find out that I've been able to make a difference in someone's life. My own cousin stopped listening to me three years ago and continues on his downward spiral of drug addiction, crime, and gang activities (whatever they are ... gee I wonder.) It kills me every time my aunt or my mom tells me the latest tale of terror about what Chris has done now. End this dangerous lifestyle while you can still "feel" enough to care about life. I'm sure you're hearing the majority of this "lecture" at rehab, but I want you to hear it from someone who's not being paid to help you or someone who's knowledge on these subjects is solely out of a textbook. I've seen the bottom of the "bottomless" pit, and it's not pretty. You've been thrown a rope. Hold on to it for dear life, honey.
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