Readers respond to "Crushed: Backstreet Boys Disappoint" (Part II)

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Date: Nov 19, 2099
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From: DMCM99@aol.com
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 8:12 PM

What these girls experienced was a head-on crash with reality. It made me feel a little sorry for them that their dreams of being on an intimate level with the boys were dashed. I was offended by the wording that "Howie was one of the major offenders." He was just doing his job, something that he loves. He shouldn't have to be second guessing his every move to try and satisfy all the little girls out there. As for the dancing, contact Fatima if you have a problem - the whole concert is choreographed by her.

I was at the Buffalo concert and it was excellent. I was astonished to see such a wide variety of fans there. There were couples, 5 year olds, grammas, moms, and teenage boys! Most of the parents in the parents room watched and enjoyed the entire concert.

Instead of being so ungrateful for the experience, maybe these girls need to thank the boys for putting on such a fine show. Several of them were under the weather with flu-like symptoms and Nick actually threw-up under the stage during a costume change. You would NEVER have guessed they were feeling ill by the energized performance they put on.

So, to save these girls from further pain, I hope they will not try to get tickets when they come back to Buffalo. That will give someone else a chance to see this fantastic group doing their thing.


From: Caroline Agbayani [plumeria878@hotmail.com]
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 9:20 AM

I would like to start off by saying that the article was in some sense tragic yet moving. I know exactly how it feels when it comes to being an overtly obsessed BSB fan and being head over heels in love with them. I am a 21 year old full-time college student attending the University of Hawaii and I can tell you that you are not alone. There are millions of fans around the world that know how it feels to be "just another face in the crowd" but that hasn't severed the fans' loyal tie to the BSB. I am a huge and obsessed fan also and Howie is my favorite. I have always dreamed of meeting them or seeing them in concert but I have not yet had the opportunity. One reason is because Hawaii was never included on any of their tours.

I was utterly devastated when I found out that Hawaii was not included on their current tour. I also know that thousands of heartbroken fans cried rivers of tears when they couldn't get any tickets. Unfortunately, I am one of those fans. Those who attended the concerts were very fortunate to have spent two hours of their lives with five of the hottest men in music. (That's more than I can say while I sit and pray endlessly for them to include Hawaii on their upcoming tour in 2000.) But many like you were lucky enough to be in the same arena as them and I feel that you should cherish your concert experience instead of perceiving it as a heart-breaking and depressing one.

You should be grateful that you got to go because many people would have done anything to get tickets to their concert. I, along with the thousands of heartbroken fans can only imagine how great it must be to attend a BSB concert. The closest I can ever get to them is through TV, magazines, cds, and posters. I love them enough to have patience for them and to accept the fact that I might not ever get to meet them or see them in concert. In spite of all this, I have not given up hope and I will continue to remain a loyal fan. That is what really matters the most to the Boys anyway. Being enraptured in your delusions and infatuation, I think you've overlooked the fact that the Backstreet Boys, as wonderful as they seem, are normal people who are in an extraordinary situation. They deserve to be happy and live normal lives (even if it means having girlfriends)just like the rest of us.

Don't you think that's fair enough? Please try to be more accepting of that and know that they love ALL of their fans no matter how far or near they are. I hope that you will be able to grow from your forlorn experience and continue to keep the Backstreet Pride alive!! Thanks for hearing me out. Aloha and Mahalo:)

Caroline Agbayani

plumeria878@hotmail.com

P.S. Sorry if I offended anyone by what I said.


From: Sneezers14@aol.com
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 11:49 PM

This is in reply to the article that was in the Buffalo news or something like that!! Those two girls, Katie and the girl that wrote, kinda had no righ tot be disappointed!! I don't mean that to be mean, I really don't. If either of you read this then I'm sorry!! But they should have known that BSB would notice them, two people more than they would the other thousands of girls. What would posses someone to think they'd stand out that much at a Backstreet Boys concert?! I can't wait to go to my concert this weekend!! At first I got a little sad that chances are I'm not gonna be noticed but then I realized concerts are to have fun and enjoy yourself not worry if Nick is gonna notice you or if Howie will see you and fall madly in love. I mean that's unrealistic. ANd what are the chances they are gonna just pick up a girl at one of their concerts and date? And I'm sorry to say but over 90% of BSB's fans are underage to date Nick legally!! I'm only 15 and I realize this so girls older than I am should realize this too!! It's common sense!!

ANd as far as BSB seeming more remote than ever, maybe it was their imaginations, maybe not, I wasn't there to say it was or it wasn't. But concerts like the Orlando and Disney ones are rehearsed soo much it's drilled into them!! And in my opinion, the most exciting parts were when they were all out hanging out or doing their own things or whatever. But in those concerts they rehearse so much that their smiles could be fake and we wouldn't know it!! And everybody knows that the lines where they say "oh Orlando you are the best crowd ever, or Buffalo I could move up here" are made up!! I mean sometimes they may come fromt heir hearts but we'll never know!! And we never really know what they are feeling by watching them on tv or whatever because we don't know them when they aren't in the spotlight!! We only know what they want us to! And I'm sure quiet a few BSB fans bake cupcakes and stuff like that for them and throw parties for them! I did!! I had one crazy slumber party for the Orlando concert!! My grandma had to throw a fit to get them to air the concert where I live but I had like 4 friends sleep over plus 2 other friends and one of my friends' little sisters over to watch the concert(which got knocked out by a storm!!). But we had so much fun!!

Like we told Jessica's sister that I was marrying Nick, Johnna was marrying Howie, Courtney was marrying Kevin, Jamie was marrying AJ, and Charlotte was marrying Brian and we were all getting married on the same day!! We had this little girl beliving it until a few months ago!! ANd she told one of her friends and they both believed this for months!! THat's like one of my best memories!! THat night is one of the best nights of my life!! I mean it had it's moments when it sucked but all in all it was fun!! BSB aren't gonna be around forever!! But the memories you make around them will be!! So make as many memories as you can and not worry about whether Kevin or whoever notices you out in the audience!! Be thankful you are there!! There are MANY fans that miss out on this tour which os probablly one of the best there is!!

ANd as fas as sexual dance moves with the female dancers and the female dancers' outfits......that is choreographed and their out fits are picked out so that they look flashy and they are able to move and do the dances in the clothes!! I mean if you can't handle that then you are probablly to obsessed with them!! And as far as their girlfriends go, leave them alone!! I mean is BSB supposed to leave them at home in Fl while they are clear across the US on the west coast and not see them for months at a time? I don't think so!!

If you expect that out of BSB then that is just wrong!! I mean, yes it saddens me a little to know that Nick has or had a girlfriend, but at the same time it makes me happy that he has somebody to make him happy!! And it's not like they flaunt their g/f's in our faces!! They try to keep them out of the public eye as much as possible! And you may think that your favorite BSB doesn't know you are there but he does!! I mean he may not notice you directly, or look you in the eye or whatever but he knows that you are there supporting him and his fellow group mates!! I mean give them credit!! They don't really notice just one fan out in the audience!! They can't even see the first, what 10 or 15 rows because of lights and stuff, so I mean think of how many people they don't really know are there!!!

I'm sorry but if you expect more out of a BSB concert than fun then you shouldn't go!! I mean chances are you aren't going to get to meet BSB by standing there looking pretty in the middle of thousands of girls jumping up and down because they most likely won't notice you because of just that reason!! You'll be standing in the midst of thousands, possibly millions of girls jumping up and down and at least trying to make the best of their time!! I mean it's two hours!! MAke the best of it, live life like it's your last two hours and you get to spend it at a BSB concert!! Enjoy yourself! DAnce, have a good time!! Don't just stand there trying to look like you aren't interested in BSB's music (b/c you wouldn't be there of you didn't like them and thewy aren't stupid!) adn don't stand there trying to look pretty or whatever trying to get your guys' attention because chances are he's not going to notice you!!

Just have fun, that's what BSB would want, and to me that's the opinion of going to a concert in the first place!! Thank you for reading this!! I know I could have made this shorter but I have nothing better to do tonight!! Anyways!! Laters people!Email me with your responses!

KTBSPA!!

Miranda aka MiMi


From: Cecilia [cece00@pacbell.net]
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 9:51 PM

I went to the Into The Millennium Concert Tour on the 22nd of October and I also went to last years concert at the Concord Pavilion and I believe that they put the same amount of energy into their performance if not more. She put at the bottom that she was a senior, I to am a senior, but I don't live in a world of BSB. Unlike that girl seemed to be.

All I'm trying to say is that she needs to stop and realize that the guys are normal people and that they do get tried. Also she needs to stop living in a world of BSB and get a life.

From a Senior at Elsie Allen High School


From: Kcanar@aol.com
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 8:01 PM

HI ALL, I JUST WANTED TO GIVE MY TWO CENTS WORTH ON THIS LETTER.

How in the world could you say you were disappointed in seeing the backstreet boys in concert. their are millions of fans all over the world that didn't even get tickets. i was grateful i got the tickets i got, even though a paid scalped prices for them. i wouldn't of cared if they had sung every note wrong, the point is i saw them, you saw them.......... that is a big thing!!!!

You say you were disappointed that they will never know who you are.........frankly the guys will never be able to met every single one of their fans because its not possible, their human just like the rest of us. they don't have super natural strength, or can travel at lightening speed........ they are normal!!! sure i wish i could meet them, it would be the happiest day of my life it i got the opportunity to tell brian how much he means to me, and how he has inspired me to get back into music, i would love to show him how alike we are, and let me tell you its scary, just ask my friends........ i might never have that chance, but thats ok with me, because i hear and see constantly all the love they give to their fans. they wrote us larger than life, an ode to their fans, they don't hesitate to sign autographs, or pose for pictures...... they even perform when their hurt or sick ( talking about kevin with his arm and nick, and aj with the flu) we mean a great deal to them as they mean a great deal to us. just seeing smiles on their faces brings me joy. they do a lot more for their fans then most music groups out there, they are doing all they can......

ktbsbpa fans peace, and love

kim


From: MJBP0419@aol.com
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 4:07 PM

You can't have it all. I too just like you would love to have been able to make contact and meet the BSB. But let us get real. We can continue to dream that someday we will. But let's keep it as dreams. Again what a pathetic fan so fickle (crushed by the BSB). They put on a wonderful show for you and me and all you can do is complain. This was my first show and I thought they kicked butt. I think and I know just listening to the BSB interviews they not only have to protect themselves from crazy fans but from the media as well. The media is just waiting for them to slip up... The BSB have been through a lot the past year they have feelings too. They have to be extremely careful.

Hey what kind of fan are you. "That's" what fans are suppose to do love them no matter what. I am sorry your little dream of meeting them was broken. But you know that doesn't stop me from continuing to dream. Hey it makes me feel good. So be a true fan. The BSB broke no promises they put on a great show, and great CD's, they also let us in their lives as much as they can. I will continue to be a Howie & Kevin fan they are my favorites too especially Howie. And even though I am married I still kiss Howie's picture every night. My husband thinks I am a nut. But remember they are entitled to have loves in their lives just like you. I know that the BSB are appreciative of there fans they say it often. At their concerts, interviews, and CD covers. What else do you want? I am probably a little bit older than you and have been to lots and lots of concerts. Jimmy Buffet for instance he says it every time how he loves his Detroit fans and we all cheer. I know he says it to Ohio, Cincinnati, etc… you get the point. That doesn't me Jimmy doesn't appreciate his fans. They love us all but; they also need girl friends/wives too, even if it isn't us.

One final comment don't mean to ramble but, they did dedicate a song to us "Larger Than Life" and Brian sing wishing I could thank you in a different way. Well I wish he could too.

MJBP0419 (a true fan)


From: Vanni [muffin16@netzero.net]
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 3:59 PM

As I was browsing through the articles at backstreet.net, and interesting article caught me eye, "Crushed: Backstreet Boys dissapoint."  I usually don't respond to the articles, but as I read this article, I felt sympathy and remorse but at the same time I felt angered by her hurtful words. 

First of all, she was very lucky to even OBTAIN tickets to the their tour.  I too am a devoted fan of the boys for years and never had the chance to see them in concert or any "close encounters."  I live in Michigan, millions of miles away from the boys.  They came to my city for 3 shows, and I wasn't able to get tickets to any of those 3 shows.  When they came, the news was all over the place, radio, tv, anything you can possibly think of.  It did pain me to sit at home while my idols were here in my city and playing and singing the songs I love to hear.  Even though I was depressed, I tried not to let it get to me and not think about it too much. 

Secondly, even though this girl is a senior in high school, she sounds like a little kid.  Her article is very grammatically structured and sounds intellectual, yet her personality seems like a regular case of "teeny bopper."  She is at the age where she should be able to realized that she will probably never meet the Backstreet Boys and need to deal with that.  Just because you never will get to meet them or ever see them in concert doesn't necessarily mean that you don't LOVE them and continue to support them.  For me, I probably will never get to meet them or see them perform, yet I have learned to deal with that painful truth.  They are simply bringing joy to us by creating beautiful music, and that is what we should love. 

When I was a preteen, I was very infactuated with Nick Carter.  I was a total obsessive fan and it hurt me so when I see him with a girl or hear of anything about him having a girlfriend.  As I've grown and matured, I know that I probably will never meet Nick Carter and let him know how much I love him.  And that's fine with me, as long as the Backstreet Boys are still around making music I love to hear, I'm a happy camper. 

Whether in this life she meets the Backstreet Boys or not depends on Fate.  It is not in our hands to tamper with the future.  If you are not one of the lucky fans to meet them, then just deal with it, hun.  It's as simple as that.  This girl is 18 years old?....If this came from a little adolescent maybe I can understand, but for that age, maturity and understanding should have already developed. 

The Boys may not have seemed too "spirited" about their performances could have been due to the fact that THEY WERE ALL SICK?  When the Boys came to my town, AJ had bronchitis, Nick had the flu, Kevin broke his arm, and Howie and Brian were sick (I don't know from what).  Yet they still put on a show.  And why?  Because they love their fans and would not want to disappoint them in any way possible. 

City after city, day after day, practice hour after hour....I guess that kind of thing kinda wear a person out.  It was commented on that Nick was the "liveliest" and the others weren't.  If you would notice them in their videos or taped concerts, you would see that Nick is always like that no matter what.  He gets really emotional and caught up in what he is doing.  He gives it his best, but that doesn't mean the others don't.  Nick is always energetic and gets really into it because it's what he loves to do.  He has always been like this.  Just watch some of the videos and make some comparisons between him and the other boys.  You will notice that he does get emotional in his singing, dancing, etc.  It's the type of person he is, and it's the type of person the other guys are.  Each and one of their personality and performances are different....but they do try their best to please their fans.

I almost fell for Yan's pathetic attempt at making people feel sorry for her.  If alone at this age she doesn't realize that the Backstreet Boys can not please each and every one of their fans, then she has some problems she need to deal with.  I don't want to be mean but that's the cold truth.  There is no possible way for the Boys to put on a lively show and reach out to every fan out there....even God can not do that task, hun.  Next time before you go and write an article about your feelings and try to get empathy, consider the consequences.  Put yourself in whoever's position that you are writing about, and see things from their point of view.


From: Michelle D. Smith [shellboo@hotmail.com]
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 8:18 AM

I was saddened to hear that she did not have a good time at the show. She's the first fan I know that didn't have a good time. First of all, I'd be SO grateful to even GET tickets for a BSB show, considering how fast they sold out. I was lucky to get better seats and I was about to sell my upper balcony seats and my younger sister almost beat me down to have THOSE. Just to get tickets (and in the 100 section too??).. girl you were SO lucky.

To me, it seems as if you didn't have a problem with the show, it's with the Boys personally. I am a 21 year old and I'm sure I'm as crazy for the guys just as you. And even though, the guys have girlfriends, Kevin is STILL on my mind every single day. Yea, of course him having a g/f bothers me a little (just like 99.9% of the fans), but I just keep getting up. Sincerely, I think you're living too much in a fantasy world. The chances of meeting the guys are unreal.. or even saying, "Hi!". Of course, I'd love to meet them, but if I don't I won't hold that against them or stop supporting them becuase they have girlfriends. I don't care how many times I see them with girls, becuase you want to know why?? It's very simple... I'll always love the guys because of the music. I LOVE their music. I don't like them because I think Kevin looks hot in leather, or becuase Howie is always winking and smiling. It's the music that was my first attraction to them. And even though I know I'll never get a chance to let them know how much I love their music and to thank them, I still feel appreciated.

No, Kevin will NEVER know the things I'd do for him. Kev, will NEVER know that my sister and I do make up dances and put them on video and send them to EVERY talk show host in existance. He will never know that I have tons of posters, not on my wall (of him), that I've neatly organized and put every one of them in plastic slip covers all into 4 separate 3" binders. None of the guys will never know that I have mutiple copies of every one of their cd's, including the imports and videos, becuase I play them so much, that if they pop, I'll always have a spare. And None of the Boys will EVER know that I carry their Cd's around promoting them all the time. I even have co-workers, who are Asain and know not a Bit of English who went out and bought there album, singing, "Everybody"... The guys will never know I do this for them, but I'm not complaining. The guys didn't ask me to do any of this. I do all of this becuase I chose to do it... not so that I'll say that I'm their biggest fan, but becuase I want to. Why do you do all of those special things for Kevin??

The Boys are always reminding us (the fans) that if it weren't for us, that there would be no Backstreet Boys. An unlike most groups, the Boys are SO, SO thankful... can't u tell?? They thank the fans so much, it's almost sickening. SO, even though they may not thank us personally, when they say "Thank You", I know that their talking about us.. the fans. Ever heard the speech Brian says: "It's becuase of each and every one of you...." Come on, you know the rest.:) It's nothing wrong with Brian saying that at every show, either.

Now, I don't know about the Buffalo show that u went to, but, ah... I went to both shows in Washington, DC on the 18th and 19th of Spetember and their speeches didn't seem phony to me. Only on the last show did Howie say that DC is special to him becuase this is where his parents met a long time ago (he didn't mention it on the first show)... did he say that at your show??? Now if he said the same thing, then I'd be worried, but I'm sure he didn't. Between both shows they all said something different.

I hope you will contiune to support the Backstreet Boys, even thought you've had a bad experience next year. Don't let one bad experience ruin your love for the guys.

KTBSPA

Michelle


From: KLynch8559@aol.com
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 2:47 AM

I would like to say this girl should thank her lucky stars she got to got to a backstreet boys concert. i live in texas they didn't even come this time i m hoping for the next leg of there tour they will. anyway you can bass you life on one thing. yes you have to dream but some time you can take it a little to far. and yes some people do get to meet them but they try there best to make everyone happy. and a lot of time it cant be done. they are only human. i mean come on the reason they are tired is

1. they have been on tour for six month, and yes i know they had three weeks off before they started they amercan tour. but they had to film the video for lager than life, and they bearly got to see there family whom i am sure they miss very much.

2. they might have been sick. i heard them say when they were at the toronto conference that they all had been under the weather. so come on people lighing up its all hard work for them. you got to reilze they cant be with all there fans at once most of the venue they play at hold 18,000, or more it is impossble for them to touch, and look at all for them. so please think about what you say. god bless. peace love, and bsb

kristy


From: Jewels681@aol.com
Sent: Thursday, November 18, 1999 1:59 AM

Dear Yan Fang,

Ok first of all please tell me where were your seats again? Oh yes that's right, Section 107, Row 16, Seats 1 and 2!! Sounds nice to me since mine were in not Section 107 or even 207, how about a nice SECTION 325 Row 13. That would be two rows from the top of the building. From your point of view we were little ants with a tiny glowsticks and a flashing light, which I brought in hopes of them seeing. Of course they probably didn't see,since the awesome and effective lights most likely overpowered my distant flash. But they are only human, what can you expect?

Second, how can you compare a live performance to one on tape? It's not even close to being similar! The atmosphere is completely different and the energy of the crowd and everything onstage consumes everyone especially those that are close to the stage, I would assume. I actually can't say though since both Backstreet Boys concerts I've attended, my seats pretty much sucked. I still had the time of my life-especially at this recent concert. Once again these five men are only human therefore the "extragavent amounts of special effects" and "non Backstreet Boy dancers" are necessary to keep a completely full arena happy during their costume changes and breaks. Our technology is changing everyday so a "high-tech" concert is in demand to compare to and beat out their competition. They obviously can't have an intimate low tech concert like on "A Night Out With the Backstreet Boys" because Buffalo is a big city with many Backstreet Boys fans that want to see them in person, just like you and me.

As for AJ's comment being ambiguous towards every city, I've talked to people online and in fact AJ nor any Backstreet Boys, has said something like that at every city they've been to. I'm sure they say some of the same things but it's mostly directed at the younger fans who don't realize that. Of course the boys will never know that YOU do all those things that you do for them. They are world renowned artists and you are... who? You are old enough and seem educated enough to know that. You are also old enough that you really shouldn't be doing those obsessive little girl things anyway! My friend and I at one time also spent tons of hours and money on teeny bopper magazines. We also longed to even be in an area they once were. It's all a part of being an OBSESSED fan but eventually we grew out of it. We still love them but we have a life to live and we can't spend all our time thinking about the Backstreet Boys. If it's too hurtful to see them at a concert then there's a simple solution...DON'T GO! (Give your tickets to someone in say.. section 325? At least they would appreciate the seats!) Each BSB had their personal highlights but they all did an amazing job. If you don't think that then you must've been watching something else or expecting way too much. Even I enjoyed the concert were I was, which was so high when the Boys flew over the fans at the great height, we were still above them!

I'm sorry if you felt betrayed by Kevin, there isn't much to say to except GROW UP! What do you expect from them?

The dancers brought an excitement and more creative aspect to the show. Who cares if some of the moves were sexual! Dancing in itself is a sexual thing. All the boys are old enough to act sexual it just so happens some of their fans are not. If you can't handle it, then don't look. Overall, I loved the show. It was amazing in every way. I've attended many different concerts and this one kept my attention better then any I've ever seen. Every moment I was in awe. I think you, Yan and Katie, need to expect less and be more appreciative for even going to the concert. Think of the fans who are as dedicated as you say you are and can't afford tickets or couldn't get tickets to the sold out show. Imagine how dissappointed they were that night! Stop being so selfish and be thankful for what you got.


From: Amanda Castello [amanda4484@prodigy.net]
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 10:05 PM

I was extremely offended when I read the article about the girl's disappointment at a BSB concert.  Why would a true Backstreet Boys fan ever imply that they don't care about their fans?  The Backstreet Boys have given up their lives for the fans.  Personally, I could never give up my life for a bunch of strangers, even if I made millions of dollars.  A normal life is something you can never buy. 

Also, I went to the BSB concert last October and it was amazing.  For those fans who focused on the dancers -- yeah, they were dressed slutty, but I didn't pay attention to that.  I went to the concert to see the boys put on a wonderful show. 

Finally, I think it is ridiculous for any BSB fan to like them for their looks and the possibility of going out with them.  The Backstreet Boys are singers, not models or movie stars.  The music should ALWAYS come first.  And to anyone who disagrees with me -- you are not a true Backstreet Boys fan.


From: Stephanie Druskinis [cyme_83@hotbot.com]
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 10:00 PM

In response to the article "Crushed:Backstreet Boys Disappoint", I think that the girl who wrote it needs to rethink her priorities. After actually seeing the guys she says she looked up to for so long, why should she complain? She got to see them, and in great seats I might add. Many girls, including me, would have loved to take her place! I tried as hard as I could to get tickets for one of their 3 sold-out shows at the Palace, and couldn't. If actually listening to the BSB for 2 hours disappoints her, how can she call herself a fan?

I too am in high school, just like the writer, and I also consider myself a devoted fan. I've loved their music since the first strains of "Quit Playin Games" came through my radio. And, like her, I have also dreamed of meeting them and telling them how much they have inspired me. But, unlike her, I am content that they will know I care through what I buy to support them and their music.

Plus, what was the comment that "It's bad enough that they have girlfriends..."?? I can't believe that she expects them to make every fan happy, but they cannot be happy and share their love with someone else. Did she actually think she should be their girlfriend? They meet hundreds of girls a day; you're lucky if they even remember your face let alone your name! Sure, I'd love it if I dated one of them, but be happy that they are happy and have actually trusted us fans enough to tell us about their girlfriends!

Well, I'm sorry if this girl came away from the Into the Millennium Tour disappointed, but as a true fan, I haven't even gotten to go to a concert and I've enjoyed it. It's her loss that she feels like she's just another member of the crowd; she shouldn't have made her whole life dependant on just the BSB. Just seeing the joy these guys has brought all my friends makes it all worth while, she just needs to look at her experience in a different perspective.

Stephanie D.


From: TwoBit67@aol.com
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 9:02 PM

The Backstreet Boys Never Disappoint:

Response to "Crushed: The Backstreet Boys Disappoint"

When I saw the Backstreet Boys -- my mentors, idols, and five true loves -- on Sunday, September 19th in Washington DC, my respect and adoration for them multiplied by some number bigger than ten. Their harmonious voices and well-choreographed dances left chills down my spine as I screamed my heart out for those Boys that have such a strong hold on my heart...It is for these reasons that I was disappointed to read what a Buffalo BSB fan wrote regarding her concert experience. Of course I believe in the saying "to each his own," and I don't plan on reprimanding Yan Fang because she chose to express her opinion. Obviously, I like to do that too. I will, however, stick up for my (our) Backstreet Boys.

When I stood at my section 115 seat in Washington DC's MCI Center, I too couldn't help but feel overwhelmed by the multitude of people that filled the arena. A small wave of sadness passed over me briefly as I realized that I was simply one in millions of fans of the BSB. This feeling quickly went away, though, as I was enveloped into the whirlwind of flashy song and dance routines at the concert's beginning, and this feeling of enthusiasm remained with me throughout the show.

Yes, I have to share what I have come to call "my Boys." I have to look at other girls with signs that say that they love "my" Kevin. But of course I do. If I didn’t, and if there weren’t so many fans, then the BSB wouldn’t be the phenomenon that they are today...and, as a true fan of them, I wouldn’t want them to have any less love than they do right now. In fact, I’m constantly trying to get other people to like them because I know they deserve all the respect and love they can get. I don’t let their popularity bother me -- I let it increase the love and admiration that I feel for them. Which brings me back to the idea that perplexes me and drives me crazy -- don’t you people (I’m speaking to people who should know who they are) see that Kevin, Howie, Brian, AJ, and Nick are only human? Humans. Just like you and me...NOT perfect (although EXTREMELY close to it).

I just don’t understand how she could think that they don’t know how much she loves them. Of course they know! They’re told about it daily...maybe the get the message from those other fans that she’re so jealous of and feel so threatened by...but still, the main fact is that they do know! And when they look out into the crowd and catch a brief glimpse of a shadow of your face, they know that you specifically, yes YOU, love them. Or else they wouldn’t be here today. That’s how down to earth the Boys are, and, really, big fans like the one Yan Fang sounds like should know this.

I too felt that the show was a little impersonal with it’s literal height, grandeur, and extra dancers...but the BSB wanted to try something new. And, believe me, if they hear that enough of their fans didn’t like it...which I’m sure won’t happen, because everyone I know had a hell of a time...then they’ll do something, any slightest thing, to sway their performance to be more for the fans. I don’t feel sorry for Yan Fang, as she implied that people should when she called her meeting Al “sad” since it’s the closest she’ll get to Kev and Howie. I’ve never even been that close! But I don’t care, because they still, as I’ve said repeatedly, have all of my love. I can still enjoy their music, support them, dream about them, and know that they appreciate me as a fan every day of their lives.

Now why can’t she or people who share her opinions at least be happy that they got to see the Boys live in concert?

~Alisa N. M., Age 17

Derwood, Maryland

TwoBit67@aol.com


From: Elizabeth Schwab [bsbfan@optonline.net]
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 3:49 PM

I read the article about the girl being crushed and all that stuff. Now let me tell ya I am 15 and have been a fan for 4 years, when I was lucky enough to see BSB live in concert (After paying $75 for a 3rd level seat) I was the happiest girl in the world! When I didn't get tickets when they first when on sale i was crying my heart out, but realized that big deal I don't get to see them this time around but when i got tix I was so happy. I ended up being able to switch seats with someone and sit in the 2nd level. Someone responded to this article saying she agreed and what did all the devotion to BSB bring her. Well I know it has brought me happiness. My mom has told me that ever since I became I fan four years ago I have been happier then ever! They give me something to live for. Something to look foward everyday.

I know that if it wasn't for BSB's song 'Roll With It' I would have killed myself about 2 months ago. I know that if it wasn't for BSB's kind words and saying they believe in inner beauty made me realize that if people don't like what they are lookin' at then don't look. As for BSB not being sincere the thing syou said AJ said he didn't say at the concert I went to. He changes what he says at every concert. Especially at the end of the tour how do you expect them to have so much energy they are human they get tired! And then the girl said something about them bringing their girlfriends on tour with them well I am happy they did. It is about time these boys have found love cause they strongly deserve it and as much as i wish I was the one AJ was in love with I know it will never happen and I have been telling myself that since the day i became a fan.

I am basically as obsessed as they come and I will always love and respect BSB everyday of my life and I don't think you should have been dissappointed all with the concert. They didn't lose any intamicy with the fans. If anything they gained it by having the round stage in the middle so everywhere is a good seat. How can you be dissappointed when you had seats 50 feet from them? tehy put on a great show and if you don't think it was good then you don't know what a good performance is or what true talent is. If you don't think it was sincere that is total b/s because they said different things at each show. I hate when people that claim to be fans turn their backs on the boys. To all you true fans KTBPA! Peace!

Liz

Long Island, NY


From: Bebe Fett [bebefett@hotmail.com]
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 8:34 PM

"Backstreet Boys Disappoint"... ?!?

When I read that heading at the Backstreet Bulletin, I thought it was about them not meeting another terminally ill child, or something to that effect. However, I was surprised to learn that it was a review written by a not just obsessed but disallusioned and selfish fan. I'm sorry to say it, but it was a good thing she was so "disappointed" by the concert because it seems to have whipped her back into reality. If she didn't notice, those other 18,000 fans around her weren't getting any closer to the guys than she was... she's lucky to even have made it to a concert! At least she was among the 18,000 in Buffalo who got to SEE the Boys; there were millions of other fans in the world who didn't have that chance. From what I read in the review it seems that she expected the guys to ignore everyone else in the arena and sing to her specifically. I was also irritated by the writer complaining about the concert being "ONLY two hours" and the lines appearing "scripted and phony." Two hours is as long as a movie, and running around, dancing and singing to thousands of fans for two hours is obviously not as easy as the guys make it seem, especially considering that they do it every night, 4 nights in a row after travelling state to state on a bus. And of course the lines are scripted... was that actually a surprise? Did people actually expect the guys to sit before every show composing a new poem or thank-you note to recite when they've probably had about 5 hours of sleep? C'mon, be realistic!

I started this e-mail as just a little comment on an article, but as I continued I started rambling because I was so mad. I'm sorry for carrying this on, and I may seem bitter (I'm not), but I just want to say a bit more.

If you were disappointed that you couldn't meet the guys, that they didn't acknowledge you, look at you, point at you, etc., then boo-hoo. Join the other 10 million+ of us around the world.

Thank You.


From: Snflwr632@aol.com
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 6:24 PM

I couldn't even finish reading your article, because I found it way too depressing. I'm sorry, but I felt that you and your friend are just feeling sorry for yourselves. Of course the Backstreet Boys are going to tell EVERY city they tour in that THEY are the best. Of course they are going to say that YOUR the best crowd they have ever had, and that you are the LOUDEST that they have ever heard. They ARE going to do that! I can't believe that you went to a BACKSTREET concert and are coming out feeling sad 'cause Kevin didn't point at you and call you up on stage, like he DIDN'T do to me -- or the next girl or the next girl. I think that you had WAY high expectations.

I personally thought that the show was incredibly awesome!!!!! I was happy that I got to go, I was happy that I was within 20 feet of them. I was happy that I got to see Nick (who is a major *hottie*) and just to hear all of them sing!!!! You also have to realize that you aren't the only girl who probably feels this way. There are thousands of others too! Do you think that Kevin has to know everyone?? And trust me, he might not know that you named a tennis racket "boo" after him, but he knows that he has loving fans like you.

So I'm sorry that this 'review' is really rude and inconsiderate of your feelings, but I had to write this, I just couldn't believe that you call yourself a fan of the Backstreet Boys, and then going around dissapointed about their concert. So.....sorry again.


From: Lothar Gulla [wabnik@email.msn.com]
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 5:49 PM

I was on the computer late yesterday night when I decided to check backstreet.net for updates. I read the updated articles, and came across one that really upset me. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, that is also why I am responding to this(note: i'm just about 17, so no, I'm NOT a teenybopper and am not in denial about things, so don't even go there :-) ).

When Yan Fang mentioned being depressed after the concert I thought for a minute. BSB were in my city twice, which I am VERY thankful for, and not being able to stand being at home knowing they were performing ten mintues away I got tickets for both shows. After the first show I was depressed myself, I didn't understand why. The show was awesome, and the guys had never performed better!! I guess I just didn't want them to leave after the next night's performance, and I just wanted to meet them so bad. I went to the concert the next day and realized how stupid I was to be depressed. I realized, the only thing that can depress someone is themselves. Sure, I would still LOVE to meet the boys, but I understand that there is a slim chance of that, no problem, I'll go on with my life. As Nick would say "It's All good." :-)

Now, about this whole rehearsed thing. Do you realize how many shows are rehearsed and scripted?? Probably about 99.9% of the shows or ocncerts you go to. This is all a part of showbiz people. And I admire the boys, they keep things as personal as they can. Realize they don't have TOTAL control of their shows.

Ok, the depressed thing, not to be rude, but that's your problem, what really got me mad was saying the boys had a lack of energy!! What is up with that?? I thought the guys had tons of energy!! I am so amazed at theses boys too. I mean, think about it, three months of tour in europe, a month off, and starting another three month tour? Give them some slack, they are only human and capable of only so much. Look at Kevin, he dislocated a shoulder and was still performing!! Nick was sick with the flu with his throat being sore and he still performed!!! Do not sit there and tell me they don't have energy! To get up and perform sick or injured takes more energy than anything any of us have ever done!!

This is jsut really an opinion thing, but I really liked the back-up dancers. What's the big deal if they seductivley slide through the boys' legs? That just shows you're not at the level of maturity to handel that. THis is totally professional relationship. Plus, look on the brightside, you can sit there imagining it's you dancing with them:-) I think many fans (no offenense, but especially the younger ones) take this all too seriously. You need to lighten up. Just because BSB are some girls doesn't mean anything. And what did you think, they were gonna leave their girlfriends alone?? My friend was really lucky and got to talk to Leigh Anne at our concert. SHe said Leigh ANne was really nice and really pretty in person. Many of you just need to sit back and realize, you are NOT in control of BSB!!

One last thing, I thought this was all about the music, not how they dance, who they're with, or how many fans they pay attention too. Go to your concerts and have fun and actually take time to listen to teh music!! Don't let anything get in your way of that!!

KTBPA ALWAYS AND FOREVER!!!!!

Luv Ya all!!

~Juliane


From: Anywhere4BSB@aol.com
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 5:27 PM

1st off I wanna say Don't hate me if you hate my opinion. Second off, I know this has nothing to do with the article, but it has to do with the responses. Just because I'm younger than 15 and like the BSB DOESN'T mean I'm a teenybopper!!!! To me, a teenybopper is a person who absolutely loves ALL of the "boy band" groups and the all the Britney Spears-ish people. BSB, NSync, 98 degrees, Boyzone, EYC, etc....... And to those of you who DO like all of them, THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING A TEENYBOPPER!!!! My goodness gracious!!! Everywhere I go I'm criticized for liking the BSB. Do I have to be criticized because I'm NOT an "Older fan"????????? And here's my actual response to the article:

Okay, I went to 2 BSB concerts this year. I had wonderful seats, and I realize that I am extremely lucky. But it does hurt to know that I will never meet them. I'll never be able to say "Hey Brian, what's up?" However many times I dream about it, chances are it won't happen. I'm not the world's luckiest person. But I am lucky. You can't consider yourself unlucky when you're caller #9--- twice. But to read these stories about girls saying "I got to meet them and Brian kissed me on the cheek and blah blah blah blah blah..."-- it just, well, it hurts. Because chances are, I won't be able to say that. I'll try, because I won't just give up. Because I want to be that girl saying, "Oh I met them a few months ago and they are just so sweet!"

Okay, back to the article- I did feel sad a couple times during the concert.

1- during the Perfect Fan because that wasn't me that Brian had his arm around or that Nick was talking to.

2- when they were leaving...

3- when I realized that I was stuck to the ground because it was very sticky...(some one spilled soda-lol)

but I was also very happy, like when Brian & AJ waved at me, when I got confetti in my hair, when Kevin was flying RIGHT over me, when I was 15 feet away from Nick & Brian, and when I found out exactly how close to the stage I was. It was a dream come true that I was 15 feet away, because the day tickets went on sale, I thought I was gonna be one of the people in the back saying "Is that Brian??? I can't tell..." But we pulled it off-- we got great seats. I can't believe it, but we did... : )

~Sabrina~


From: DDLB5656@aol.com
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 2:10 PM

When I read the letter that this girl sent in, all I could do was shake my head and wonder. She should be grateful she got to go to a concert at all. I live in the Orlando area and there was no way on God's green earth that I am going to be able to go their concert here. I would love to simply be in the same building as them, but it ain't happening and I accept that. She sounds, to me, like someone who is over-obessed and that's not healthy. I adore the guys, but I'm also realistic in my opinion of who they are and my chance of ever meeting them. They are five of the most recognizable people in the world; people who don't like them or their type of music know who they are, and that doesn't happen very often. To an extent they are unattainable, but that's part of the appeal, I think.

How many times do a group of people get together with that amount of talent? Not alot. We should be grateful we've gotten to be apart of it. We're the ones who have made their albums successful; their tour, one of the highest grossing and fastest selling out ever; and all their singles hits. They know that and I'm almost 100% positive that they appreciate it and know that we are the reason why they are where they are. But it's impossible for them to show us personally on a one on one basis. That's why they tour, why they put on the show they do, why they write a song for us and go to all the trouble to make the video something they think we would enjoy. And what about all the extra things they don't have to do?

All the charities they contribute to, agreeing to do MTV's FANatic, press conferences for the fans, benefit concerts. They do it to help people and they do it for the fans. To say you're disappointed in them because you don't get the chance to meet them or because they won't ever know who you are; is selfish. Be thankful you've gotten the chance to hear their music, see them in concert, and just to be a part of it all.

Thanks,

Debbie DDLB5656@aol.com


From: LaShanda L Bell [psubsbfan@juno.com]
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 3:58 PM

I must say, I have seen some articles on backstreet.net that have really pissed me off, but this one has sent me over the edge! It's people, like the writer of this article that make critics and others assume the worst of BSB and their fans. First of all, I attended a BSB concert this September in New Jersey and I thought it was unbelievable. My friend and I slept out on a Manhattan street in the rain just to get these tickets and we felt that it was all worth it after seeing the show.

My first problem with this article is how the writer says that the boys "did not seem to be putting forth all their energy". Maybe she's blind, but what I saw was the guys, singing and dancing their hearts out , and having fun doing it. Also, I don't feel the dancers or the special effects cluttered the stage. It added more to the show. I mean, seeing the guys by themselves, is fine, but, believe me, I still to this day can not find the words to describe how incredible their entrance looked! And I loved when the dancers came out with those torches. It was different, not the common set up you see at most concerts. Come on now BSB fans, can you actually say that the Homecoming concert was better than this? I think not! When I look at it now, it's not that enjoyable after seeing such a great show this year.

Also, the whole thing about it being scripted, look, these guys have done God knows how many shows, they can't come up with something new everytime! Plus, who cares about that, we just want to see the performance! I mean, they have a song about the fans, and are working on a website that allows fans to have more of an interaction with them. What else do you want? They are only human. By the way, AJ did not rip off his tank during "Everybody" at the concert I attended, so I guess it's not all scripted, now is it? I There is something that the author wrote that I found disturbing. She said it was hurtful seeing them protected behind silver steeled barriers. LMAO! What the hell is up with that? Does she want some crazed looney teenybopper to try to attack them?

Another thing I disagree with, is about the sexual dances during, I believe it was "Show Me The Meaning". I personally thought that the dancing was great because, it made the show not too clean cut, as some critics perceive them to be, and not too raunchy. We're not all 13, I'm almost 20! Come on people, "Millennium" is not all sweet and sugar coated, as the first album, it has a little bit of a sexual tone in some of the songs, and I think that people of high school age, like the writer, and college age like myself, and beyond that, should be able to understand and appreciate the fact that the guys are trying to make themselves more appealing to adults, which they are gradually doing, based on the airplay they get on Adult Contemporary stations. I think the dancing was sexy, and done in good taste, and not meant to offend anyone. I enjoyed Kevin getting freaky, by the way! lol

Last, but not least, I'm sick of this whole thing about their girlfriends. Look, they are human, they deserve to be happy. They are extremely good looking guys, especially Kevin, my favorite, and it would be unbelievable to think that they wouldnt' have girlfriends, or at least date. Don't make a big deal about it! I don't care about who they date (unless it was Britney Spears , that would piss me off! lol) as long as they continue making good music. These guys are extremely talented, and they definitely have the talent to last and outgrow the whole "teen idol" status, into a group that is well respected and can be enjoyed by all ages. If they are happy, I am happy. Don't assume that you will never meet them, because you never know. I have spoken to a lot of people who have met the guys, and never expected it would happen to them. Just don't expect to be the one to walk down the aisle with them! lol Plus, why would they want to meet a fan who is not appreciating their music, just focusing on who they are dating, and irrelevant things like that? Keep that in mind people! Let's just enjoy their music and be proud of their success that they have worked so hard for, that they deserve! KTBSPA!

LaShanda


From: Andrea Smith [shades088@hotmail.com]
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 10:35 AM

I would just like to comment on the article by Yan Fang. I sometimes wonder when I see and hear people making insensitive comments about the boys if the fans really do understand them. Three out of the five guys have been extremly ill with the flu, (which is sweeping through the band, dancers, crew and the boys) Kevin is still sore from his snowboarding accident. As far as not giving a good performance, I'm VERY shocked that the Ottawa or Buffalo show was not cancelled the boys are simply exhausted,(Nick lost his voice at the TO show, Howie has the flu and AJ has bronchitis), but they continue to come out every night and give the greatest show they can.

I think its ridiculous that fans become upset when they hear that the boys have brought their girlfriends along for some of the tour. They are humans and miss their girlfriends. I think people should be happy that some of them have been able to find someone who is willing to put up with there hectic schedule and pursue a relationship with them. Instead of being upset about this people should be happy for them.... do fans really think they have a chance with one of the boys????

As far as the dancers go, I think they add to the show, with the stage being in the round the boys can't be at all sides all the time so the dancers "fill in" so your not looking at an empty side. I think the choreography is amazing and once again Fatima Robinson has shown what an amazing talent she has. Younger fans need to realize that they are not the only ones going to the shows any more, ALOT of fans are older. Granted a large percentage of the fan base is TBs but the "older more mature" fans are starting to appear at the shows too.

I just want to say that people should be happy that the boys put on such a brilliant performance, that they are so kind to their fans. As a fan you should know that, after all they dedicated a song to us didn't they?


From: Artemis Zeus [artermisz@hotmail.com]
Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 10:18 AM

This is a response to Yan Fang's article, Crushed: Backstreet Boys dissapoint.

Look, first of all, why feel sorry that you and your friend have excessive fondness towards the Backstreet Boys. You are not alone, there're many others like you in the world. But what you should not do is try to make them look like somekind of ignorant celebrities. They are not. They know they have fans, in fact, have belief that they hold their fans close to their hearts. It is absolutely impossible for them to make every fans feel close to them. It is not possible for them to know exactly which fans are feeling neglected.

You cannot expect them to be able to locate where you are and wave at you personally. They are public figures, shared by all who love them. Be satisfied that they are doing their best to make you feel special. At least you get to see them perform for you. There are many others in the world, like their fans in Asia who don't even have the previleges of seeing them perform live. The closest they ever get to the boys is seeing them perform on TV, months after the actual footage and yet they never feel sorry for themselves. You get to be near them, in the same building, breathing the same air, but fans in Asia and other parts of the world don't get to do that. In fact, they'll always be wondering, where the boys are right now, what are they doing etc... and yet they still love them all the same.

I don't know what you want from them, but all I can say is be satisfied that you have them nearer to you than you really thought. Always bear in mind, loving someone doesn't mean getting attention from that person all the time. It's knowing that they're happy, safe and well.

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