Readers respond to "Crushed: Backstreet Boys Disappoint"

Back - Index - Submissions - - What is RSS? Date: Nov 17, 2099 Source: Backstreet.net readers Submitted By: From: NAugustyn@aol.com Sent: Wednesday, November 17, 1999 6:46 AM Although I am sorry that the girl who wrote this feels "disappointed" by her concert experience, she should consider herself lucky she got to go at all. I am the Mom of 2 Backstreet fans who live in Indiana. Not only were all of the concerts in our area sold out, but there wasn't even one scheduled in our state (although I understand they may add Indiana to the end). My children would have loved being anywhere inside the concert arena, let alone 50 feet from them. My biggest concern, however, is the fact that this little girl (and she left no age so I am hoping she is little or young enough to not know better) has built her entire life around the boys. When you built your life around someone or something that is unattainable, naturally you will be disappointed when things are not as you wish they would be. I am hoping not that these type of fans grow out of loving the Backstreet Boys (I too am a fan and am 38 years old) but grow out of building them into an enigma that they really are not. They are just normal guys with extraordinary talent who choose to share that talent with the rest of us. The fact that she felt they were distant is just that, they were distant. They cannot possibly make eye contact with every fan in the audience. She also said "Where their performances on video seem natural, their comments to us Buffalonians seemed scripted and phony." Video performances are rehearsed sometimes many times. Even the "Night Out" video was somewhat rehearsed. Maybe they seem phony or scripted because they have been on tour for so long and they are tired. They are, if you remember, on the last leg of this tour. I remember seeing an N'SYNC (don't hate me for this) special where they admitted that they put a sign on the door leaving the bus that had the name of the city they were in on it so they would not get confused as to where they were. I am sure that a lot of performers have some device such as this to remind them also. Enough sounding like a mother. As I said before, consider yourself lucky you even got to go to the concert. I am keeping my fingers crossed they will come to Indiana and my kids will get to experience the them as well. From: Holly :) [b_rokinmybody@hotmail.com] Sent: Tuesday, November 16, 1999 10:02 PM Crushed: Backstreet Boys Disappoint, I have to say that was one of the most painful yet beautiful stories I have ever read. I too was faced with a similar experience. The day I too came to relaize that I am nothing more to the Backstreet Boys than an over obsessed fan who helps provide them with the mansions they live in. And I would also never get my chance to tell Howie Dorough and Nick Carter that they are the reasons I make big dreams. Never get to hug them and get that one picture with them I have always craved. What did my years of devotion get me? Years of waiting in lines for 12 hours for concert tickets. Years of ordering cd's from Japan and England. Years of traveling for hours to attend their concerts. It got me a set of 3rd level seats for the Tampa Ice Palace show on Dec. 2. I think what we all went through was a period of growth and maturity. Myself, now 17, have been a devoted fan since I was 14 years old. Back then, I was in my teenybopper phase. It hurt when I would see Nick with a girl. It was a must to have every item with their faces on it. I have grown up. I still would never miss a concert within a 7 hour drive from here. I still must purchase every cd. But I have now learned not to waste too much of my time. I remember that fateful concert on New Year's Eve in Orlando. Seeing the boys so close to me but yet so very far away. I at that moment knew, I would never get the chance to be known to them as they're Perfect Fan. I now wish I never would have gotten so head over heals in love with them when I was younger. I have had many relationships in this life but on New Year's Eve, that was the worst break up in my life. My break up with the Backstreet Boys. From: Kissy359@aol.com Sent: Tuesday, November 16, 1999 9:46 PM Ok, I just read a fan was actually disappointed at her Into The Millennium concert. Well, where the hell was she for 2 hours? I also saw them in concert last year and nothing can compare to how amazing they were this year. I understand everyone has their own opinion, but how can any true BSB fan say they did not enjoy this years concert? First off, AJ's intro changed every concert so to say it seemed rehearsed, it wasn't, cuz he didn't say anything about living in NJ at my concert. He told us to say EYC which I don't think he said at too many concerts. And at a totally different concert he told everyone to scream obnoxiously the whole night and he didn't say that at ours either. So you are completely wrong about that. Another thing, this girl had really good seats, seats millions of unlucky fans would have died for. She seems a little ungrateful. And to say they are dissappointed cuz BSB will never know who she is, deal with it! Isn't it enough to just be a fan of something? Of course they will never know all their fans, that shouldn't change how much you like them at all. And to say the guys didn't have enough energy, what concert were you at? And they do know more than you think that we own their posters, pins, etc. That is why they thank their fans the million times that they do. They dedicated a whole freakin song to us for God's sake! That's more than enough for most of us. And you wish for more fan interaction but you have to realize how super careful the boys have to be, they have to be protected. There's lots of pyschos out there, we all know it, so we deal with the fact that it is hard to meet them, like any celebrity, it should not change your perception of them. They are so gracious to their fans. I was lucky to go to Backstreet TV back in May and we were all told not to touch the boys and not to give them anything. Well, no matter how many times we were told no, Nick told MTV to let us give him anything we wanted cuz he felt it was his and he wanted to know how much we cared. So to say they don't do enough for their fans is very ungrateful. It seems like you are asking for way to much. You shouldn't stop liking someone because you know you can never meet them. You have to admire from afar at times and that is what it is for the Backstreet Boys. About the only part I agreed with was that the girl dancers were dressed pretty slutty. I don't think any of their female fans, regardless of age, want to see the girls dressed slutty grabbing or jumping on the guys on stage. I honestly thought having dancers was a bad idea. But it wasn't as bad as I thought. I thought the skit during "That's The Way I like It" was cute. And some of the other dances just looked nice with dancers, especially when there was usually only one BSB on our side, a few dancers behind him looked ok. Although, even without dancers, they are just as spectacular, I did not let their dancers get to me to the point where the concert became less enjoyable. Some people just expect too much, instead of just enjoying themselves. Especially at a concert that millions would have died to be at. From: YM [Manuel5@Ix.Netcom.com] Sent: Tuesday, November 16, 1999 11:09 PM I just felt the need to vent what I was shouting at my computer when I read this article "Crushed:Backstreet Boys disappoint". Before I start please let me say to Yan Fang that this is not an attack on her or her article. I wasn't angry over her comments on how the boys seemed insincere at times and that she felt disappointed at the show. Hey the boys aren't always going to be perfect even when we want them to be and AJ did say the same things at the NY show and I'm sure he's said to at every show so far. It was comments like "Howie, however, was one of the "main offenders of the evening," according to Katie. "When it should have been a pleasure to see him on stage, instead, it only reminded me that Howie is a Backstreet Boy, and he is unattainable." Give me a break! Every celebrity is unattainable, did you guys ever think that you were ever going to be one of the BSB's girlfriends? You are a senior in high school you should have some grasp of reality by now and not delude yourself thinking that you were ever going to be with them. The other thing is that you are in high school, Howie and Kevin are two grown men that will date women their own age and should! Don't say that "it's bad enough that they have girlfriends" they deserve to be happy after all they give up for their fans and to do what they love to do, they have lives and they are human beings and they are guys! healthy normal guys that have girlfriends, nothing out of the ordinary. I personally thought the choreography was awesome and sexy, I haven't heard anyone else complain even the youngest fans and the oldests, my 43 year old mother loved the show and the dancing and so did the mothers and grandmothers that sat around me at the show. I have hopes of meeting them one day too but I also live in the real world, but hey you never know you might meet them someday I still have that hope. Kevin is 28 years old, he deserves someone to love and someone to love him back so he can get married someday and have children, the same for Howie and if that woman can't be you and we all know it can't be by law! then someone else deserves to make them happy. I have an immense love for the BSB as well, I have posters, I have the taped performances, hey I'm wearing their shirt right now as I'm typing this but now that the only way that Kevin and Howie will know that you love them is by listening to their albums and appreciating the music they make. There are thousands of Kevin and Howie fans out there, my friends being two of the biggest they are but you have to know that they are as unattainable and unreachable as the stars in the sky. Being a huge Brian fan myself I am overjoyed to know that he has a girlfriend and I really hope that he's happy and the best news that you can tell me about the BSB is that they all have girlfriends and they are all happy with them. I'm sorry that you feel crushed and sad but I still don't understand why? because Kevin or Howie will never know how much they mean to you? Honey... that's life, be glad that you were one of the 18,000 fans that got to see them in concert and think of the thousands of disappointed fans around this country and Canada that didn't get to see them, not even as close as you were. I know I thanked my lucky stars that I was breathing the same air as the BSB. They appreciate their fans and they love their fans, each and every one of us and they know we love them even if not all of us get to tell them so. I'm sorry if I have offended anyone but it's my opinion and I am entitled to one. Marie Comment on this item. Recent Comments Submitted by: Greg Guepy Submitted by: Ann Elisabeth Submitted by: Ann Elisabeth Submitted by: Carol Clark Submitted by: Joe Comment on this item. 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